Friday, June 20th

6:30 pm – 8:30 pm

Provo City Library

$20 per couple - ($25 after June 15th)

Space is limited to 30 couples

Register   NOW   to guarantee your spot


No, No, No!


Go, Go, Go!

Starting Your Journey to Sexual Intimacy

Presented by:

Jeremy S. Boden, Ph.D

Nate Cottle, Ph.D

Joyce Starks, LCSW

At this workshop, you will learn:

  -  About your own “sexual scripts” you have brought into your relationship and those that have emerged

  -  The essential knowledge about sex and sexuality to create and maintain a happy sex life

  -  The importance of and how to create emotional safety in your relationship

  -  The essential elements on how to communicate to your spouse about your sexual needs, wants, and desires

What to expect:

This program is designed around the four key areas of successful transition from sexual abstinence to sexual activity—Healthy Sexual Scripts and Beliefs, Sexual Knowledge, Emotional Safety, and Sexual Communication. Participants will learn through engaging, fun, professional, and experienced presenters, helpful handouts and exercises, and couple conversations and activities.

There is a great emphasis on privacy, comfort, and confidentiality. Although we encourage questions and comments, you will not be expected to participate in group discussions. All of the conversations and exercises will be done with your partner privately. Please note that the content in the workshop is conducive to an LDS audience. Further, Jeremy, Joyce, and Nate are all active members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints..

About the No to Go Workshop



Sexual intimacy in marriage can be a powerful way to bond, facilitate forgiveness, enhance friendship, and fortify your love for one another. Nevertheless, it can also be an area of frustration, resentment, and emotional pain. This program is grounded in recent research conducted at Utah Valley University by Dr. Jeremy Boden, Dr. Nate Cottle, and Joyce Starks, LCSW. Together, with a team of researchers, they surveyed over 1,000 married LDS individuals and couples about their sexual lives. What emerged from this data were four essential keys couples need to know as they navigate through the transition from sexual abstinence to sexual intimacy. We now have the keys to help couples navigate that journey successfully. This workshop is specifically designed for couples who are preparing for marriage, engaged to be married, and newlywed couples (0-3 years). If you have any questions, please feel free to contact Jeremy at

The Presenters

Dr. Jeremy Boden is a full-time faculty at Utah Valley University where he teaches courses in marriage and relationships, family dynamics, marriage and family therapy, and human sexuality. Jeremy is also a marriage and family therapist at the Provo Center for Couples and Families where he specializes in couples, sex therapy, premarital counseling, and pornography addictions. He has received extensive training in couples therapy and is currently training to be certified in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. Jeremy is certified to teach a number of family life education programs such as the Prevention and Relationship Enhancement Program (PREP), Family Wellness, and the Premarital Interpersonal Choices and Knowledge (PICK) program. He is a frequent presenter in the community on marriage enhancement, relationship development, and sexuality in marriage.


Jeremy has presented research at local and national professional conferences around the United States as well as published in scholarly journals and books. Jeremy is currently the primary investigator in an extensive research project on marital sexuality.


Jeremy is married to his beautiful and supportive wife, Daria. They are the parents of four children. He loves reading, the theater, playing and watching sports, collecting unique root beer bottles (he has over 100), and spending time with his family.

Dr. Nate Cottle is an Associate Professor of Family Studies at Utah Valley University. He holds a Doctorate in Human Development and Family Studies from the University of Texas, and Master’s and Bachelor’s from BYU in the same field. At UVU, Nate teaches courses in romantic relationships and family life education and serves as the Family Studies Program Coordinator.


He is a Certified Family Life Educator who has made over 100 community presentations and workshops to individuals and couples nationally and internationally.  He has worked with the Twogether in Texas program and Oklahoma Marriage Initiative. He has also worked with the military through the Strong Bonds and Yellow Ribbon programs, and was appointed by Governor Herbert to serve on the Utah Governor’s Commission on Marriage.  He is certified to teach the Prevention and Relationship Enhancement Program (PREP), Within My Reach (WMR), the Premarital Interpersonal Choices and Knowledge (PICK), Great Start, and all of the Family Wellness curricula.


He has published several journal articles, educational curricula, and book chapters, and presented at national conferences, including the National Council on Family Relations and the National Association for Relationship and Marriage Education. He is currently the Co-Principal Investigator on a project  exploring the transition to marriage and sexuality for abstinent couples.


Nate and his wife, Wendy, have been married almost 18 years.  They have three wonderful children.  He loves college football and date night, and she loves shopping and the theater, but most of their time is spent having fun with their children.

Joyce Starks, PhD (ABD), LCSW: Joyce earned a Bachelor of Science degree in Behavioral Science from Utah Valley University. She earned an MSW Degree and completed Doctoral course work at  the University of Utah, where the faculty awarded her as with the Most Promising Therapist. Joyce is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and is currently employed at LDS Family Services in American Fork. She specializes in married couples counseling, premarital counseling, sexuality, sexual education, sexual dysfunction, and sexual addiction. She is also employed as Practicum Field Liaison and an Adjunct Faculty member at Utah Valley University in the BSW program.


Joyce is currently conducting a research study with Dr. Jeremy Boden, and Dr. Nate Cottle regarding the transition from premarital sexual abstinence to marital sexual satisfaction. Joyce has also presented numerous times to academic, professional, religious and community groups on a variety of sexual topics.  Joyce is the mother of three sons, and lives in Pleasant Grove, Utah.

Joyce Starks, Ph.D (ABD), LCSW  |  Adjunct Faculty member at Utah Valley University

Jeremy S. Boden, PhD   |   Marriage and Family Therapist |  Full-time faculty at Utah Valley University

Nate Cottle, Ph.D   |  Certified Family Life Educator  |  Associate Professor at Utah Valley University

Register today to reserve your space!

Please fill out the workshop registration form. After we receive your registration information, we will email you both a welcome letter that will contain important information regarding the Hold Me Tight Workshop.

Please watch for your Welcome Letter in your email inbox.

Please Note:

Although relationship education can be beneficial for most relationships, this workshop is an educational resource for couples interested in enhancing the quality of their relationship. This program is not intended to be a substitute for individual couples therapy with a trained professional therapist. If you or your partner are experiencing significant relationship distress, serious depression, or mental health problems, we urge you to seek professional treatment immediately and consider using this program only with the help of a trained mental health professional.

If you have any trouble registering using the form, please feel free to contact us by email or call 801-471-9146.

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